Monday, December 7, 2009


I have been learning assertiveness nearly on a daily basis lately. I've had a lot of personal stuff go on the past few days and I remind myself constantly to continue to stand up for what I believe I deserve. It's empowering. It's also kind of funny (to me, anyways). I've always been a very strongly independent person, always doing my own thing and it just seems kind of funny that after so many years there is still room for growth (I know this is rhetorical, but making a point). I've almost gotten tired of 'growing' lately (it's emotionally exhausting) but I know it's for a good cause. I'm a better person because of it. I just view it a little differently. They tell us we "find ourselves" and learn to assert ourselves in our 20's. You start to really define who you are. Then I was told in my 30's you're comfortable with who you are and you get to enjoy life more. I felt that more at 30 than I do now. I almost feel I'm still learning and it's my 20's all over again. I know we learn lessons at a time for a reason (and when we're ready for them) and I need to keep reminding myself of this.


CaitieCat said...

Just wanted to say hi - I realized it'd been a while, thought I'd check in. Sorry I keep forgetting to come over here, my blog habits have been so set for so long that it's just hard to change them. I do keep you bookmarked, though. :)

Perovskia said...

Hey. I was just thinking about you the other day, wondered if you poke your head in or not anymore. I understand about the 'blog habits' being hard to change :)

hydra said...

You also meet people at various stages of your life for a reason, too. There's always something you have to give to them, or they to you. It took till I was in my late 40s to learn how to be assertive. I could never stand up for myself or my rights. It will come!

Perovskia said...

Nice to see you here, hydra!

You're right; everyone comes into our lives for a reason.

It's funny because I learn a new...attribute.. for lack of better words, and I have to put it into practice a few times before it comes naturally. An easy metaphor is learning to walk; you stumble a few times, but you pick yourself back up and keep trying until you're standing strong.

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